Saturday, July 25, 2009

Saving My Baby

It's that time again...inspection time. My insurance is up on Monday and my mother has cut me off so now I'm taking out my own policy. I'm actually kind of excited about it. My mom kept me on the insurance until I turned 23 because she's wonderful in that kind of way.

There are other ways she is not so wonderful though. She is not wonderful in the sense of keeping papers...papers like the title to my car. It went missing and she has to get a new one so that I can get one in my name and do all those other fun things the state makes you do to keep a car. My mom also has a suspended license for unpaid parking tickets. That's right...she lost those too. She needs to get a state id card to verify that she is in fact the owner of the car to get a new title. Then I have to get a title in my name, insure the car, register it, trade plates, and inspect it.

This has been the source of my agony for the past week or so. My mom has a habit of making things a much bigger deal then they are. One thing turns into, "Don't come crying to me when you lose your car". Why would I lose my car? Relax Woman!

I've been having a difficult time adjusting to life back in my mother's house since I've been on my own for 4 years (at least it's better than living with him). I feel suffocated and we fight almost constantly. We just have different lifestyles. They say you can always go back home but it's easier said then done.


otin said...

Yea, you can always go back home, you can always go to the dentist also! Hang in there and work toward getting your own place, if I had to live with my Mom, I would probably end up in a mental hospital!!!

rxBambi said...

I couldn't imagine living with my mom again! Just remember she wont be around forever so love her while you can (do I sound old again or what??).
Have you been to Optimistic Pessimist's site? I think she's back at her parents as well. Check her out.
And good luck!

Anonymous said...

It's hard to go back, but once a Mom always a Mom. You'll always be the kid. Trust me, I've got loads of experience on this one.

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

Ohhhh...moving back home would be tough. I don't think I could do it - definitely easier said than done. Like RxBambi said, though - she won't be around forever, so make the best of it... ;) Yeah, I guess I'm not very helpful, am I? :) Oh, and uh...don't lose your car! (grin!!)

Medora said...

My mom is a huge drama queen - everything is the end of the world. I couldn't live with her - I did for a short while after my divorce, with both of my kids, and she was a nightmare. Good luck!

Anonymous said...

I don't envy you - I love my Mum to bits - But I live 8000 miles away!

Hit 40 said...

My mom lives on cheesecorn and cheap liquor. Oh.. and chocolate ice cream. If you can stand hearing her crunch popcorn, then you can maybe live with her.

And it is definitely better than living with him!!!!

Midtown Girl said...

Sis need to chill - SHEESH! But she reminds me of how I 'kind of' was with my ex (about food - always ate up my fav snacks - dammit). But seriously - she's like this more or less bc shes @ home focusing on mundane things - send her a link to to get her off ur back lol!

I never went on my mom's insurance bc, well, I just drove under hers!! Guess i new i was moving to the city and didn't really want to pay for it temporarily.

I go home once a week to help my mom out after she got sick. BUT I COULD NEVER EVER LIVE THERE AGAIN.

One time, before she got ill, I spent the night and woke up at 10am - she swings my bedroom door open and yells - ARE YOU GONNA SLEEP ALL DAY??

Seriously, get asap while u still have ur sanity chick! XOXO

California Girl said...

Here's a "mom's" perspective. It is very hard to intermingle my lifestyle with that of my 21 year old son who moved back in last May. He wants to stay out til 2, 3 & 4am. I work every day, sleep very lightly, and he wakes me up when he comes home late.

I want him to keep his room and bathroom clean by attending to it once a week. He doesn't see dirt.

I don't want to wake up at Midnight and find his friends "hanging out" here.

I am not charging him rent as I thought he'd be more considerate. I also thought it would give me more leverage. He isn't and it doesn't.

I don't know what you're like as a person/boarder/housemate. You may be a delight. But we all go our separate ways and we have to understand and respect that of one another.

Hit 40 said...

In regards to the Beautiful Houses comment....

I have kinda a big house too. I plan to get a little decorator help when I do a big redo after the boys are in college. Until then... I might as well forget it. They trash about everything. And, I think you might have read in one of my posts that they are going to be giants.

Mango Girl said...

I am laughing at the paperwork nightmare you are going through...sorry; just my warped sense of humor.

I hope you and your mother can figure out a way to make it thoughts are with you. (stay away from sharp objects when she is around)